After 5 years of marriage, my husband and I decided to add an addition to our team. Our baby girl is our joy! We researched everything about having a baby. We knew the safety rating on the perfect stroller, the proper way to burp her, and the cost-benefit of using cloth diapers. Of all the books that we purchased, we neglected to purchase one that told us how to care for our marriage as well as we were caring for our child.
Children change everything in a household. While dedicating 24 hours a day to our little bundle of joy, we almost forgot to nurture our own needs. We were both determined to preserve the one thing that keeps everything else in order...a healthy marriage. Through trial and error, we found a way to balance our responsibilities and happiness.
1: Take care of the wife and she will take care of everything else.
Let's face it, when the wife isn't happy NO ONE is happy. The husband should try to provide as many resources as possible for his Superwoman to save the world. Asking "What can I do today to help?" means the world to a new mother. In turn, the mother is able to tend to the needs of the household.
2: The best gift you can give your children is a safe, stable, loving home.
The best thing you can do for a child is to love their mother/father. Love manifests itself through respect, compassion, and empathy. We strive every day to make a home that is free of conflict and full of "love in action." We lead by example. We show each other love so our daughter will witness how she should be loved. When we have a disagreement, we let her see us work it out.
3: Don't forget the relations.
Speaking of "love in action", do it and do it often. No matter what else is going on in the world, intimacy should not be a task. Not in the mood? Take a long shower, put on your best perfume/cologne and get there. Too tired? Make out like the good old days and fall asleep in each other’s arms. Too upset? Nothing better than make-up sex.
4: Throw roles out of the window.
We have learned to do what works best for our marriage without forcing each other into roles. The husband doesn't mind changing diapers and cooking. The wife doesn't mind using the drill and hanging the blinds. We do what works for us in our marriage.
We are still young in our marriage but we will continue to love each other as God loves us.
Dear God: We come to you as humble as we know how asking you for forgiveness for our sins and thanking you humbly for the blessings you have bestowed upon us and everyone who will
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