THE POWER OF ONENESS -- Being on one accord By Joseph and Schmieka Dean

Can two people walk together without agreeing on the direction? Amos 3:3 (NLT)

There is something magical about unity or simply just being on one accord. Have you ever notice how families, friends, or better yet countries can get on one accord and pull together when there is a great tragedy.  When everybody gets the same mindset things start to happen.  That simple concept can be seen in any great unit (ie marriage, companies, churched and etc.).

If the concept of unity works then why don’t we apply it in our marriage?  Being married for 10 years, we realize early if we wanted to have a working functional marriage it would center on us being one.  The bible says, “and the two are united into one.' Since they are no longer two but one” (Mark 10:8 NLT).  Well, why don’t we actually try working on this matter and try to do more uniting and less separation of ourselves from our spouse.

One way you can tell that your marriage is not going in the right direction of unity.  You will hear words like, “That is mine”, “This is yours”, or better yet “My bills” and Your bills”.  We, Joseph and Schmieka, believe that you are married in every area of your life.

Walking in unity is one of the greatest challenges in any marriage. It's definitely easier to walk in isolation; you can get things done without question, and do what you so please.
God values your marriage greatly and He has planned so many great things for you to accomplish together. And it doesn't matter how determined and strong you are, you cannot accomplish anything near what both of you can accomplish together. Stop taking unity in your marriage for granted, desire it with all your heart, learn about it from the Word of God, start praying about it especially together, and lastly find time to talk about it.

List a few areas you know God would have you begin to work on, for example finances, career, sex, and in-laws. There are no quick fixes, changes require time, respect each other's opinion and be willing to compromise. Live to keep coming together and not to drift apart.

Remember if a house is divided against itself, that house cannot stand (Mark 3:25 NIV).